1 Title: "But I'm Not Quite Sure What That Means": Costs of Nonbinary Gender as a Social Technology
4 Tags: epistemology, nonbinary, social technology
7 > _Eight o'clock, Monday night, and I'm waiting
8 > To finally talk to a girl a little cooler than me
9 > Her name is Nona; she's a rocker with a nose ring
10 > She's AFAB enby but I'm not quite sure what that means_
12 > —["Girl All the Bad Guys Want"](https://genius.com/Bowling-for-soup-girl-all-the-bad-guys-want-lyrics) by Bowling for Soup (paraphrased)
17 * What is NB?? Like, what does that mean?
18 * The view that people just "are" NB as a brute fact is not plausible
19 * Instead, NB as a "social technology" (https://samoburja.com/social-technology/)
20 * In this frame, we can inquire as to the costs and benefits of an NB gender regime; this article focuses on some nonobvious costs
21 * NB is a way to opt-out of stereotypes
22 * Signaling catastrophe: if the 5% of androgynous people ID as NB and you're not allowed to refer to their sex in words, does that mean that non-NBs are therefore consenting to being stereotyped?
23 * GNC presentation ("a rocker with a nose ring") has the same signaling dynamics, but doesn't trash our ability to talk about sex when relevant