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+stepping over the line in babyserver and #arabeth
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+most of the ill will is on my side
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+From the standpoint of a cultural minority, it feels like the dominant culture is constantly microaggressing against your interests, and sometimes you want to push back in self-defense, with the justification that they started it. But from the dominant culture's perspective, it was just being itself, and the "pushback" is the aggression, and the minority started it.
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+Tail didn't even want to Tweet me?!?
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+the oragnaizer of the Quillette meetup wanted to talk about black dysfunction, and I felt the discomfort of "Why are you interested in this topic?"
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+the pain of being values-aligned but not ideology-aligned