+
+"We're not actually doing the bad reasoning you're accusing us of" dodge is not credible; we had a whole goddamned sequence on this
+
+https://srconstantin.wordpress.com/2018/12/15/argue-politics-with-your-best-friends/
+
+pulling my punches somewhat "Why can't we define 'woman' that way?" I was trying to be conciliatory with, "You can, but sometimes I want to use the word in other ways", but maybe that just got read as a sign of weakness; a more aggressive stance would have been "Because [37 Ways Words Can Be Wrong], that's fucking why"
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+https://srconstantin.wordpress.com/2018/12/15/argue-politics-with-your-best-friends/
+
+"Beatrice"'s disavowal
+
+embarrassing myself
+
+rationalists are _really good_ at free speech norms
+
+progressive virtue signaling—but when I say it, it's not just a sneer; it's a
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+https://twitter.com/zackmdavis/status/1084628483748184064
+
+test case: http://slatestarcodex.com/2017/04/12/clarification-to-sacred-principles-as-exhaustible-resources/
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+https://www.gnxp.com/blog/2007/10/james-watson-tells-inconvenient-truth_296.php
+—
+
+stepping over the line in babyserver and #arabeth
+
+most of the ill will is on my side
+
+From the standpoint of a cultural minority, it feels like the dominant culture is constantly microaggressing against your interests, and sometimes you want to push back in self-defense, with the justification that they started it. But from the dominant culture's perspective, it was just being itself, and the "pushback" is the aggression, and the minority started it.
+
+Tail didn't even want to Tweet me?!?
+
+the oragnaizer of the Quillette meetup wanted to talk about black dysfunction, and I felt the discomfort of "Why are you interested in this topic?"
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+the pain of being values-aligned but not ideology-aligned