I think my feelings for Jessica represent an interesting interaction of the conflict between sex and "gender": my high regard for her is happening because she passes so well that my brain is tagging her as a woman (and women who understand LessWrong stuff to that level are sacred and precious), but I don't feel creepy about so openly expressing it to her or others, because I'm less afraid of hurting her, because I expect that whatever anti-rape adaptation brainware women have (that result in strange males being labeled "creepy" threats) she ... probably just doesn't have it
## How dumb do you think we are?
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+_no utilitarian calculation has taken place_
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+(I _also_ haven't done a calculation, but I'm not a utilitarian; I'm an aspiring epistemic rationalist)
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