content/drafts/codes-of-conflict-or-smile-more.md

   1 Title: Codes of Convergence; Or, Smile More (working title)
   2 Date: 2020-01-01
   3 Category: commentary
   4 Tags: discourse, software industry, anecdotal
   5 Status: draft
   6
   7 > _This is where the party ends
   8 > I can't stand here listening to you
   9 > And your racist friend
  10 > I know politics bore you
  11 > But I feel like a hypocrite talking to you
  12 > And your racist friend_
  13 >
  14 > _Out from the kitchen to the bedroom to the hallway
  15 > Your friend apologizes, he could see it my way
  16 > He let the contents of the bottle do the thinking
  17 > Can't shake the devil's hand and say you're only kidding_
  18 >
  19 > —["Your Racist Friend"](https://genius.com/4498157) by They Might Be Giants
  20
  21 It is humbling to contemplate the possibility that the only reason I haven't suffered any consequences for my writing is simply because I'm _not important enough_ to be a target—in either direction. (That is: no one hates this blog enough to bother reversing the pseudonym and making trouble for me in real life, and, conversely, my open-source and professional work isn't notable enough for anyone to bother digging to see if I have a secret gender-heresy blog.)
  22
  23 Curtis Yarvin
  24 Rod Vagg linked to Quillette
  25 Opal guy said trans people are delusional
  26
  27 I did a good job of—how do you say?—hiding my power level.
  28
  29 "It's just that the people listening think you're an asshole and they're showing you the door"
  30 think I'm an asshole and are showing me the door https://xkcd.com/1357/
  31
  32 the Uber driver who picked me up from the airport was named Omar and was from Mexico
  33
  34 he did not know any nonbinary people
  35
  36 "peering through reverent fingers"
  37 "but the situation is fraught"
  38
  39 My Little Pony convention was more ideologically tolerant
  40
  41 https://meteuphoric.com/2017/08/30/what-you-cant-say-to-a-sympathetic-ear/
  42
  43 "There are views we have decided are unacceptable and we will ostracize you for having them." https://twitter.com/seldo/status/714272018976284672
  44
  45 find the contributor covenant PR where someone wanted to carve out a personal Twitter exemption, and the counterargument mentioned naming the project in the profile
  46
  47 https://where.coraline.codes/blog/oscon/
  48
  49 Jerrica independently idenfitied it as a microaggression
  50
  51 https://www.nateliason.com/blog/social-disobedience
  52
  53 singular they for named individuals with an Anglosphere name or a beard in their profile photo
  54
  55 I interrupted a woman, trying to finish her sentence
  56
  57 heritability of politics actually makes sense: the moral foundations are the "true" trait, but in a particular country, that could predictably mean being a democrat
  58
  59 https://westhunt.wordpress.com/2018/09/05/landscapes/
  60
  61 "Politics of Process Defense" http://esr.ibiblio.org/?p=8120
  62
  63 https://fivethirtyeight.com/features/americans-are-shifting-the-rest-of-their-identity-to-match-their-politics/
  64
  65 Damore lawsuit also quotes an instance of "40-something white men" (p. 43)
  66
  67 https://medium.com/@yonatanzunger/so-about-this-googlers-manifesto-1e3773ed1788
  68
  69 /2017/Aug/interlude-vii/
  70
  71 https://twitter.com/nickmon1112/status/1041668315947708416
  72 http://archive.is/oqDta
  73
  74 [the taxi man]
  75
  76 https://twitter.com/_sagesharp_/status/1042769399596437504
  77
  78 https://mjg59.dreamwidth.org/18505.html
  79 https://adainitiative.org/2012/10/25/open-source-software-open-to-all/
  80
  81
  82 I'm concerned about the category boundaries of "annoying" changing over time in response to political pressures, even while it remains true that at any particular time, it's not hard to read the situation and decide to not be annoying
  83
  84 Freddie DeBoer, "Planet of Cops" http://archive.is/g4mfx
  85
  86 https://imgur.com/TV8VScL
  87
  88 https://lulz.com/linux-devs-threaten-killswitch-coc-controversy-1252/
  89
  90 https://lkml.org/lkml/2018/9/20/413
  91
  92 Christoph Conrads's critique: https://lkml.org/lkml/2018/9/20/1172
  93
  94 Edward Cree's critique: https://lkml.org/lkml/2018/9/19/234 https://lkml.org/lkml/2018/9/20/52 https://lkml.org/lkml/2018/9/20/118
  95
  96 great troll: https://lkml.org/lkml/2018/9/23/148
  97
  98 https://quillette.com/2018/06/19/why-women-dont-code/
  99
 100 https://www.theamericanconservative.com/dreher/bbc-to-identify-haters-within-lgbt-allies/
 101
 102 https://www.reddit.com/r/slatestarcodex/comments/9qaqik/culture_war_roundup_for_the_week_of_october_22/e89kb23/
 103
 104 https://www.gnu.org/philosophy/kind-communication.html
 105
 106 https://www.theregister.co.uk/2018/10/22/sqlite_code_of_conduct/
 107
 108 implicit marketing and context collapse
 109
 110 http://reason.com/blog/2017/04/18/drupal-developer-ousted-over-kink#slide1
 111
 112 https://medium.com/@marlene.jaeckel/the-empress-has-no-clothes-the-dark-underbelly-of-women-who-code-and-google-women-techmakers-723be27a45df