X-Git-Url: http://unremediatedgender.space/source?p=Ultimately_Untrue_Thought.git;a=blobdiff_plain;f=content%2F2018%2Fsticker-prices.md;h=6425da28ba2a8f9cdfea5f7c59da7927377153b9;hp=7d8589b820f86bd909461deb7d33d4c8975ddd67;hb=118f9ed5f56cec89f15caf9b30026fd42ccca392;hpb=980fbb08fe4073bff279e5be227ceafa3e1d9e05 diff --git a/content/2018/sticker-prices.md b/content/2018/sticker-prices.md index 7d8589b..6425da2 100644 --- a/content/2018/sticker-prices.md +++ b/content/2018/sticker-prices.md @@ -25,7 +25,7 @@ The question came as we introduced ourselves mid-conversation. After I gave my n I think I handled it reasonably well?—hemming and stalling for a few seconds before eventually giving _he_, with a disclaimer that the reason I hesitated was because I don't want to imply that I _identify_ with masculinity—it's complicated. The questioner, sensing my discomfort, made an effort to placate or reassure me: "Sure," the person said, nodding, "That's just what you're using right now; that's cool." -The question was a compliment, really. I don't think they would have asked if I had had a beard. There's _no chance_ of anyone mistaking me for a woman—but maybe the conjunction of my beautiful-beautiful ponytail and my manner and my [slight gynecomastia](/2017/Sep/hormones-day-156-developments-doubts-and-pulling-the-plug-or-putting-the-cis-in-decision/) is enough for me to be mistaken for the kind of man ([in the sense of](/2018/Apr/reply-to-the-unit-of-caring-on-adult-human-females/) adult human male) who thinks he can demand that other people perceive him as a woman or nonbinary person. (I think I'm at least as credibly androgynous as a couple of the guys I saw wearing the _they/them/theirs_ stickers.) +The question was a compliment, really. I don't think they would have asked if I had had a beard. There's _no chance_ of anyone mistaking me for a woman—but maybe the conjunction of my beautiful–beautiful ponytail and my manner and my [slight gynecomastia](/2017/Sep/hormones-day-156-developments-doubts-and-pulling-the-plug-or-putting-the-cis-in-decision/) is enough for me to be mistaken for the kind of man ([in the sense of](/2018/Apr/reply-to-the-unit-of-caring-on-adult-human-females/) adult human male) who thinks he can demand that other people perceive him as a woman or nonbinary person. (I think I'm at least as credibly androgynous as a couple of the guys I saw wearing the _they/them/theirs_ stickers.) How strange it is—to be _seen_ and _unseen_ at the same time. Seen, because nice smart progressive people know to look for cues of gender variance and accord that with deference and latitude, such that I parse (correctly!) as someone who plausibly has some kind of gender problems, rather than "man who happens to have long hair for whatever stupid but uninteresting reason."