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-Title: Social Strategy Notes, February 2019
+Title: Social Strategy Notes, March 2019
 Date: 2020-01-01
 Category: commentary
 Tags: personal, software industry
 Status: draft
 
-_(Attention conservation notice: petulant navel-gazing is boring. [Please subscribe](/feeds/all.atom.xml) for actual content later, I double-dog promise!)_
+_(Attention conservation notice: petulant Diarly-like navel-gazing is boring. [Please subscribe](/feeds/all.atom.xml) for actual content later, I double-dog promise!)_
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+So much for the rationalists (previous posts)
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+At least, that was the vision _I_ internalized in the late 'aughts. Others who were present may remember things slightly differently.
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+And so, as I previously blogged, it was _kind of a shock_ in 2016 when I moved to "Portland" (which is actually Berkeley), noticed that 
+
 
 February has been a pretty exciting month for me in terms of advancing in my chosen profession!
 
@@ -28,6 +36,8 @@ I remember being at the University in 'aught-six or 'aught-seven, reading a libr
 
 karaoke: "Reflection" as trans anthem, I said "It permits many interpretations"
 
+telling the woman in our karaoke group that she should sing the female part, but I wouldn't have if there had been a trans woman present
+
 ReductRS tweet, I probably looked annoyed rather than mirthful
 
 it's not actually engaging with the 
@@ -99,7 +109,7 @@ my obsessive personality (being angry about school felt _just_ like this)
 
 B.'s advice about the unwarranted assumption of good faith
 
-summing over three conversations, don't want to get into details because don't want to relitigate object-level points addressed in prev. (and future) posts, and because I don't want to leak too much info about private conversations
+summing over three conversations, don't want to get into details because don't want to relitigate object-level points addressed in prev. (and future) posts, and because I don't want to leak too much info about non-public conversations
 
 part of the reason I've been slow to finish my draft to Ozy is the sense that it doesn't really matter
 
@@ -110,3 +120,38 @@ at first I was upset about two-types in 2016/17, but that may have been prematur
 "Wilhelm" told me to give up, but I have a _massive_ homefield advantage that doesn't port; that's an incentive to stand my ground and fight a culture war, unpleasant as that is
 
 trans women who I love and admire and don't want to hurt—but who are a _different thing_ from actual women—_sufficiently_ different in a way that deserves either a separate noun, _or_ at least https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Markedness ("women"/cis-women as the central thing, and "trans" as a wierd version); the "women, cis or trans; neither kind more central than the other" is not going to fly. Which isn't to say that "cis" is a bad word to have (I don't mind having words for "straight" or "heterosexual") (this could be its own post)
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+"We're not actually doing the bad reasoning you're accusing us of" dodge is not credible; we had a whole goddamned sequence on this
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+https://srconstantin.wordpress.com/2018/12/15/argue-politics-with-your-best-friends/
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+pulling my punches somewhat "Why can't we define 'woman' that way?" I was trying to be conciliatory with, "You can, but sometimes I want to use the word in other ways", but maybe that just got read as a sign of weakness; a more aggressive stance would have been "Because [37 Ways Words Can Be Wrong], that's fucking why"
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+https://srconstantin.wordpress.com/2018/12/15/argue-politics-with-your-best-friends/
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+"Beatrice"'s disavowal
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+embarrassing myself
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+rationalists are _really good_ at free speech norms
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+progressive virtue signaling—but when I say it, it's not just a sneer; it's a
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+https://twitter.com/zackmdavis/status/1084628483748184064
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+test case: http://web.archive.org/web/20200111125910/https://slatestarcodex.com/2017/04/12/clarification-to-sacred-principles-as-exhaustible-resources/
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+https://www.gnxp.com/blog/2007/10/james-watson-tells-inconvenient-truth_296.php
+—
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+stepping over the line in babyserver and #arabeth
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+most of the ill will is on my side
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+From the standpoint of a cultural minority, it feels like the dominant culture is constantly microaggressing against your interests, and sometimes you want to push back in self-defense, with the justification that they started it. But from the dominant culture's perspective, it was just being itself, and the "pushback" is the aggression, and the minority started it.
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+Tail didn't even want to Tweet me?!?
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+the oragnaizer of the Quillette meetup wanted to talk about black dysfunction, and I felt the discomfort of "Why are you interested in this topic?"
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+the pain of being values-aligned but not ideology-aligned