1 Title: Codes of Convergence; Or, Smile More (working title)
4 Tags: discourse, software industry, anecdotal
7 > _This is where the party ends
8 > I can't stand here listening to you
9 > And your racist friend
10 > I know politics bore you
11 > But I feel like a hypocrite talking to you
12 > And your racist friend_
14 > _Out from the kitchen to the bedroom to the hallway
15 > Your friend apologizes, he could see it my way
16 > He let the contents of the bottle do the thinking
17 > Can't shake the devil's hand and say you're only kidding_
19 > —["Your Racist Friend"](https://genius.com/4498157) by They Might Be Giants
21 It is humbling to contemplate the possibility that the only reason I haven't suffered any consequences for my writing is simply because I'm _not important enough_ to be a target—in either direction. (That is: no one hates this blog enough to bother reversing the pseudonym and making trouble for me in real life, and, conversely, my open-source and professional work isn't notable enough for anyone to bother digging to see if I have a secret gender-heresy blog.)
24 Rod Vagg linked to Quillette
25 Opal guy said trans people are delusional
27 I did a good job of—how do you say?—hiding my power level.
29 "It's just that the people listening think you're an asshole and they're showing you the door"
30 think I'm an asshole and are showing me the door https://xkcd.com/1357/
32 the Uber driver who picked me up from the airport was named Omar and was from Mexico
34 he did not know any nonbinary people
36 "peering through reverent fingers"
37 "but the situation is fraught"
39 My Little Pony convention was more ideologically tolerant
41 https://meteuphoric.com/2017/08/30/what-you-cant-say-to-a-sympathetic-ear/
43 "There are views we have decided are unacceptable and we will ostracize you for having them." https://twitter.com/seldo/status/714272018976284672
45 find the contributor covenant PR where someone wanted to carve out a personal Twitter exemption, and the counterargument mentioned naming the project in the profile
47 https://where.coraline.codes/blog/oscon/
49 Jerrica independently idenfitied it as a microaggression
51 https://www.nateliason.com/blog/social-disobedience
53 singular they for named individuals with an Anglosphere name or a beard in their profile photo
55 I interrupted a woman, trying to finish her sentence
57 heritability of politics actually makes sense: the moral foundations are the "true" trait, but in a particular country, that could predictably mean being a democrat
59 https://westhunt.wordpress.com/2018/09/05/landscapes/
61 "Politics of Process Defense" http://esr.ibiblio.org/?p=8120
63 https://fivethirtyeight.com/features/americans-are-shifting-the-rest-of-their-identity-to-match-their-politics/
65 Damore lawsuit also quotes an instance of "40-something white men" (p. 43)
67 https://medium.com/@yonatanzunger/so-about-this-googlers-manifesto-1e3773ed1788
69 /2017/Aug/interlude-vii/
71 https://twitter.com/nickmon1112/status/1041668315947708416
72 http://archive.is/oqDta
76 https://twitter.com/_sagesharp_/status/1042769399596437504
78 https://mjg59.dreamwidth.org/18505.html
79 https://adainitiative.org/2012/10/25/open-source-software-open-to-all/
82 I'm concerned about the category boundaries of "annoying" changing over time in response to political pressures, even while it remains true that at any particular time, it's not hard to read the situation and decide to not be annoying
84 Freddie DeBoer, "Planet of Cops" http://archive.is/g4mfx
86 https://imgur.com/TV8VScL
88 https://lulz.com/linux-devs-threaten-killswitch-coc-controversy-1252/
90 https://lkml.org/lkml/2018/9/20/413
92 Christoph Conrads's critique: https://lkml.org/lkml/2018/9/20/1172
94 Edward Cree's critique: https://lkml.org/lkml/2018/9/19/234 https://lkml.org/lkml/2018/9/20/52 https://lkml.org/lkml/2018/9/20/118
96 great troll: https://lkml.org/lkml/2018/9/23/148
98 https://quillette.com/2018/06/19/why-women-dont-code/
100 https://www.theamericanconservative.com/dreher/bbc-to-identify-haters-within-lgbt-allies/
102 https://www.reddit.com/r/slatestarcodex/comments/9qaqik/culture_war_roundup_for_the_week_of_october_22/e89kb23/
104 https://www.gnu.org/philosophy/kind-communication.html
106 https://www.theregister.co.uk/2018/10/22/sqlite_code_of_conduct/
108 implicit marketing and context collapse
110 http://reason.com/blog/2017/04/18/drupal-developer-ousted-over-kink#slide1
112 https://medium.com/@marlene.jaeckel/the-empress-has-no-clothes-the-dark-underbelly-of-women-who-code-and-google-women-techmakers-723be27a45df