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+the appeal to arbitrariness technically extends in both directions (if there's no rule saying you can't use the word to talk about self-identity, there's no rule saying I can't use the word to talk about sex), but systematically favors one side—sex is a pretty robust abstraction, and there's no reason to deny the appeal of robustness
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+https://wnww.reddit.com/r/MtF/comments/89nw0w/did_you_have_a_genderbody_swaptransformation/
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+Inadequate Equilibria!
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+I'm expressing the same kind of frustration as the Great Teacher complaining about cryo not being standard—my personal benchmark of "sanity" isn't realistic
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+there's a sense in which everyone is behaving reasonably given their incentives, but
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+"Concessions" don't help: even if people will grant some of my points if I threaten to walk, that's not a truth-seeking discourse process that systematically responds to arguments and evidence
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+Julia Serano
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+You "can't" define a word any way you want, or you "can"—what actually matters is the math
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+words don't have intrinsic definitions, but the only reason you would want to repurpose an _existing_ word is either becasuse you think you can carve the joints better, or mindfucking
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+cat/dog gaslighting; even if you don't particularly need that particular classification for a practical purpose, even so ...
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+fame: arguing with a Discord server was low-impact compared to getting the leadership on board
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