> willing to use the preferred pronouns [...] proper to use their preferred pronouns (and would be quite offensive _not_ to)
So, I really wish I had a better way to make it super-clear up front that everything I write about is _at least_ one level up from any actual specific concrete decisions. (I say it in those words from time to time, but empirically, that's not enough. Viciously constructive writing feedback on how I might do better is always welcome.)
To be clear: I never misgender people _in public!_ That would be very rude, and I'm not trying to be rude! I am a civilized person who is only 1.7 standard deviations [more autistic](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Autism-spectrum_quotient) than the male mean, and I am reasonably competent at respecting the social and linguistic conventions of whatever social context I happen to be in at the moment!
> willing to use the preferred pronouns [...] proper to use their preferred pronouns (and would be quite offensive _not_ to)
So, I really wish I had a better way to make it super-clear up front that everything I write about is _at least_ one level up from any actual specific concrete decisions. (I say it in those words from time to time, but empirically, that's not enough. Viciously constructive writing feedback on how I might do better is always welcome.)
To be clear: I never misgender people _in public!_ That would be very rude, and I'm not trying to be rude! I am a civilized person who is only 1.7 standard deviations [more autistic](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Autism-spectrum_quotient) than the male mean, and I am reasonably competent at respecting the social and linguistic conventions of whatever social context I happen to be in at the moment!