update old "Changing Emotions" links to nu-LessWrong (LW 2)

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@@ -9,13 +9,13 @@ Tags: not-a-transition
 
 So, I'm facing a problem.
 
-On the one hand, I really want to indulge my perverted narcissistic fantasy about being a woman, and I'm _really really jealous_ of all of the trans women friends (I still have friends!—[for now](http://unremediatedgender.space/2017/Jan/the-counter/)) I've made since I moved to "Portland" (quotes because it might not actually be Portland, although you should know that I would still use quotes even if it is Portland, because I'm [not some kind of idiot who doesn't know information theory](https://www.gwern.net/Death-Note-Anonymity)).
+On the one hand, I really want to indulge my perverted narcissistic fantasy about being a woman, and I'm _really really jealous_ of all of the trans women friends (I still have friends!—[for now](/2017/Jan/the-counter/)) I've made since I moved to "Portland" (quotes because it might not actually be Portland, although you should know that I would still use quotes even if it is Portland, because I'm [not some kind of idiot who doesn't know information theory](https://www.gwern.net/Death-Note-Anonymity)).
 
 On the other hand, I don't want to become a trans woman myself, because I already have a perfectly functional social identity as a man named "'Mark'" (two sets of quotes: one for words-as-words, and another because it might not actually be "Mark", although you should know that _&c._) that I'm not going to throw away for the sake of my perverted narcissistic fantasy, particularly since the standard transition narrative looks so actively delusional to me that I can't possibly participate in it.
 
 (Where one day, that sensitive, nerdy guy with a ponytail says, "Hey everyone, turns out I've secretly been a girl this entire time in some unspecified metaphysical sense, and no one noticed!", and everyone else is supposed to politely be like, "Oh, right, that makes sense.")
 
-But transitioning isn't a binary switch; it's a whole series of interventions designed to make a man resemble a woman as much as possible: hormones _and_ hair removal _and_ new clothes _and_ voice training _and_ coming out to friends and family and coworkers _and_ meeting new people as a woman _&c_. Maybe ... maybe you could take _some_ interventions _without_ giving up your primary social identity, as a _reasonable compromise_ between the scintillating but ultimately untrue thought, and the practical realities of a world in which biological sex is a real thing that [we don't know how to change](http://lesswrong.com/lw/xe/changing_emotions/) (even if people in Portland will politely _pretend not to notice_). An autogynandromorphophilic consolation prize, when the real thing will always be out of reach, and the thing that people like to pretend is as good as the real thing looks like it would actually cause way more problems than it solves.
+But transitioning isn't a binary switch; it's a whole series of interventions designed to make a man resemble a woman as much as possible: hormones _and_ hair removal _and_ new clothes _and_ voice training _and_ coming out to friends and family and coworkers _and_ meeting new people as a woman _&c_. Maybe ... maybe you could take _some_ interventions _without_ giving up your primary social identity, as a _reasonable compromise_ between the scintillating but ultimately untrue thought, and the practical realities of a world in which biological sex is a real thing that [we don't know how to change](https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/QZs4vkC7cbyjL9XA9/changing-emotions) (even if people in Portland will politely _pretend not to notice_). An autogynandromorphophilic consolation prize, when the real thing will always be out of reach, and the thing that people like to pretend is as good as the real thing looks like it would actually cause way more problems than it solves.
 
 I am not the first person to have this idea.
 
@@ -35,7 +35,7 @@ I'm aiming for a "weirdly-androgynous man and occasional transvestite" outcome.
 
 So here is my schedule of interventions—
 
-* Estradiol: _Yes_ ([already underway](http://unremediatedgender.space/2017/Jan/hormones-day-13/))
+* Estradiol: _Yes_ ([already underway](/2017/Jan/hormones-day-13/))
 * Spironolactone: _Maybe_ (conditional on results from just-estrogen)
 * Facial hair removal (laser): _Maybe_ (conditional on results from E/spiro; if beard shadow makes the difference between consistently reading as "weirdly androgynous man" rather than "trans woman", I probably need to keep it)
 * Cosplaying female characters at special events (Comic-Con, Halloween, *&c.*): _Yes_