https://archive.ph/BlALB
https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/cujpciCqNbawBihhQ/self-integrity-and-the-drowning-child
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+https://www.thefp.com/p/an-existential-threat-to-doing-good
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+https://www.thecut.com/article/hola-papi-feeling-phony-after-transitioning.html
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