+
+
+-------
+
+"The Opposite Sex" (https://web.archive.org/web/20130216025508/http://lesswrong.com/lw/rp/the_opposite_sex/),
+
+> until men start thinking of themselves as _men_ they will tend to regard women as defective humans.
+
+When I read the [systematizing–empathizing](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Empathising%E2%80%93systemising_theory)/"men are interested in things, women are interested in people" line of research—which, to be clear, is [only a mere statistical difference at a mere Cohen's _d_ ≈ 0.93](http://unremediatedgender.space/papers/su_et_al-men_and_things_women_and_people.pdf), not an absolute like genitals or chromosomes—my instinctive reaction is, "But, but that's not _fair_. People _are_ systems, because _everything_ is a system. [What kind of a lame power is empathy, anyway?](https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/WhatKindOfLamePowerIsHeartAnyway)"
+
+"Everything is a system" to "I _think_ everything is a system."
+
+I think everything is a system ... because I'm male??
+
+-------
+
+"I often wish some men/women would appreciate": https://www.greaterwrong.com/posts/FBgozHEv7J72NCEPB/my-way/comment/AEZaakdcqySmKMJYj ]
+
+--------
+
+_ playing dumb initials anecdote
+Me pretending to be dumb about someone not pretending to be dumb about my initials https://www.overcomingbias.com/2008/04/inhuman-rationa.html ; contrast that incident (it's not an accident that he guessed right) to Yudkowsky: "I try to avoid criticizing people when they are right. If they genuinely deserve criticism, I will not need to wait long for an occasion where they are wrong." (https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/MwQRucYo6BZZwjKE7/einstein-s-arrogance)
+
+--------
+
+_ Vassar clapback anecdote
+https://www.overcomingbias.com/2008/06/why-do-psychopa.html#comment-518267438
+
+------------
+
+_ If I want to stay aligned with women, then figuring out how to do that depends on the facts about actual sex differences; if I want to do the value-exchange suggested in
+
+------
+
+Three causes of gender weirdness: AGP, being sensitive rather than macho, and antisexist ideology—the latter two are things that could be shared by women, but only because they're _human_, not sex specific, and the first one is sex-specific but male
+
+-------END OF NEEDED SCENES-------
+
+_ more empathic inference: https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/qCsxiojX7BSLuuBgQ/the-super-happy-people-3-8
+
+
+* Scott Alexander Understands Language
+
+cooperate with men who cooperate with women