content/2019/promises-i-can-keep.md

   1 Title: Promises I Can Keep
   2 Date: 2019-12-16 05:00
   3 Category: other
   4 Tags: romance
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   6 "I think if you show any indications of being an egg, you _need_ to marry someone who's OK with you eventually transitioning. Not because you necessarily _will_ want to transition, but because it's likely enough that you need to plan for it."
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   8 "I probably don't actually _disagree_. Keeping promises is very important. What a betrayal it would be—to take someone to have and to hold, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health—only to [throw it all away when the cost curve moves](/2017/Dec/lesser-known-demand-curves/)? No. But in the spirit of [policy debates not appearing one-sided](https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/PeSzc9JTBxhaYRp9b/policy-debates-should-not-appear-one-sided), I would like to register a note of sadness that we're effectively thereby saying 'eggs don't deserve love.'"
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  10 "Eggs can have love, they just add a constraint."
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  12 "I don't think you understand [the seriousness of 'just' adding a constraint](https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/xqJqZgowy5pPxNNst/inconvenience-is-qualitatively-bad) to a search problem that is [already very constrained](/2017/Oct/select/). Constraint: must own unicorn."